Saturday, November 28, 2009

Gifts!!!


Have I told you lately how excited I am for Christmas?!!!

Remember how I told you this year I was going to be able to give more TIME???

The gift I am most excited about it my grandma's. Like I'm so excited I have to tell you about it!

My grandma is 91 years old, lives alone and is one of my best friends. Tomorrow I am going to give her a box filled with all kinds of questions about her holiday memories. I'm going to call her everyday starting December 1st. She's going to pull one question out each day and we are going to talk about it.

On Christmas I'm going to present her with an 8 x 8 scrapbook filled with all the things we talk about, pictures, etc.

I am seriously so excited for the treasured moments I am going to be able to spend with her!

AND for a sneak peak, here are the gifts for some special little girls that I have been working on with a TON of scrap felt I have. I can't wait to FINALLY give these gifts as well!




(Unfinished makings for PB&J sandwiches)

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Once Upon a Time. . .


Once upon a time I was leaving my house for 12 hours to be a vendor at a mom's night out event in South Jordan.

As I was leaving I asked Brandon if he wanted me to leave the car seats.

He said, "No I'm not going anywhere."

I said, "I better. Someone might need stitches or something."

You see every time a child gets hurt around here it's when I'm gone.

2001 - Christian needs 7 stitches in his forehead - I was at work.

We had a pretty good run.

Then. . .

2006 - Parker swallows a coin and needs x-rays - I was visiting teaching

2007 - Parker and Christian were wrestling and Parker popped the back of his head open. Needing 2 staples. - I was shopping.

2007 - Parker fell and hit an end table requiring 6 stitches about his eye - I was shopping.

Fast forward to Friday the 13th I am in TERRIBLE traffic in Taylorsville when I get a call from the neighbor mom across the street. "Steph, Parker and Jaci were playing in the exercise room and he cut his pinkie finger on a piece of equipment and it's pretty bad." I'm thinking CRAP! So I give her Brandon's number.

Brandon gathers up the other 2 kids and runs over. There is my poor neighbor holding pressure on Parker's finger, her 6 year old vomiting from seeing all the blood, her other 3 children and 5 other friends running through the house. She is a saint I tell you, A SAINT! Neither she nor Brandon can figure out if it needs stitches so they wait for her husband to come home. He was off getting a bazillion pizzas for all the kids.

It was decided stitches were needed and again I got a phone call. It had been 30 minutes, I was still in traffic but this time I was in West Jordan. (It was a BAAADDDD traffic night!) Brandon doesn't know where to take him. We've never had an emergency here and we know that our insurance is not a popular one in Cache Valley. Brandon decides he'll just figure it out and I decide to try and keep driving. Well after much deliberation our way cute neighbor who just also happens to be a dentist decides to take Parker down to his office and stitch him up. How Nice is that?!!

So if you are in need of any dental care and happen to be here in Cache Valley or even if you're not go visit:


Mathew C. Cheney DMD

(Click on the link below for more info)



I promise he will treat you right!

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Have you been grocery shopping lately?


'Tis the season for great deals at the grocery store! I know a lot of people in Utah are totally bummed now that Albies is gone. Plus we no longer get the Red Plum insert in our papers so that's a double whammy! But guess what? It can still be done. You can stuff save a grundle at the grocery store! Here's my last haul:
1 13.5 lb Jenny-O hen turkey
2 Gallons milk
1 quart Eggnog
2 double packs of Stove top Stuffing
1 box pumpkin quick bread
1 10oz lunch meat
16 cans Swanson Broth
2 tubs whipped topping
1 pack flour tortillas
2.5 lbs shredded cheese
1 16oz cottage cheese
8 cartons yogurt
10 boxes Nabisco crackers
2 cans Planters cashews
6 4pks of Duracell AA bateries
6 tubs Lighthouse dip
5 Giant Oreo icecream Sandwich singles
1 Breyers Rocky Road Icecream
1 loaf Farm Bread
4 cans Libby's vegetables
2 McCormick Gravy mix
1 bag Nestle Chocolate chips
6 Cans S&W beans
1 doz large eggs
1 16 oz sour cream
2 lbs Mission corn torillas
2 bricks cream cheese
2lb brick medium cheddar cheese
My total bill should have been $206.22
I paid $62.74!!!!
That's a savings of 70%
PLUS by buying the crackers I am getting a $10 rebate back from Nabisco!!!
Happy Shopping!

Thursday, November 12, 2009

The passing of a great man



Just over 12 years ago this great man married and sealed my husband and I in the Salt Lake Temple.


Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Nobody wants a Christmas worth forgetting. . .

Every time I watch this I am moved to tears.

The principle this teaches is a good one!

Where should our focus be?


Deep Thoughts


And so it went. . .


There I sat at Mountain Crest High School last week as part of "Life Studies Panel." There was a 25 year old, a woman that was 45, another 49, another in her 50's, another in her 60's, a man in his 70's and a sweet sweet skydiving grandma who was 85. I was the person representing the 30's. Our job for the day was to sit in a row and answer some very reflective questions of high school seniors. Where I sat I was the first to answer all the questions. Lucky me! *roll eyes* Not only did I have to have an intelligent sounding answer about personal experiences in my life but I had to think fast.


Some of the questions were easy.


Student: "How did you meet your spouse?"


Me: "High School Sweethearts."


Students in unison "AWWWWWW!"


Student: "What's the worst thing that has ever happened to you?"


Me: "Delivering a dead baby & and having a sick husband for years that no one could fix rank up near the top."


Other panelist's answers were just as sad. . .divorce. . .death of a spouse. . . death of parents. . . At least if anything the students realized that life is not always pretty.


Student: "What's your greatest accomplishment?"


Me: "My 3 children."


Student: "What's been your worst and best job?"


Me: "HMMMM. I haven't had any really bad jobs but my best is being a teacher. My lesser favorite would have to be being a grocery store checker."


Student: "What would you like to do before you die?"


Me: "Be a teacher again."


Student: "Are you afraid of getting Alzheimer's?"


Me: "Never really thought about it."


Some of the questions were harder and required more thought.


Student: "What has been the best part of your life and would you want to go back to that time."


Me: "There hasn't been a best part. They've all been good." I reflected on each of the stages of my short life, high school, college, newlywedom, being a new mom, now . . . I explained that they all were amazing and at each point I didn't want life to change but it did and it was different but still great in a different way. I also told her I wouldn't go back. "The here and now is wonderful. People are supposed to progress." My feelings were the consensus, even with the elderly.


There were many more questions that day but the one that sticks out most in my mind is:


"Is your life exactly the way you planned it when you were our age?"


Me: "For the most part. I always wanted to be a teacher and a mom from the time I was 5 years old. I was well on the teacher path when I was a senior in high school. I became a teacher and I am a mom. It's not exactly though. I always wanted 4 or 6 children. I only have 3."


At which point for the first time in the entire discussion the classroom teacher who looked to be about my age turned and looked at me and very seriously asked, "Are you going to have any more?" As she stared at me she seemed very intent on my answer as if it validated something in her own life. My answer, "No, probably not. I'm getting too old. Next year I'll be 35."


And the crickets chirped.


And she looked down at her desk.
And I looked down at her desk and there were 2 small frames with little boys in them. And I thought, "Oh crap did I just tell her she's too old to have anymore children?"


And after a minute of silence the other panelists responded to the original question.


The truth is I really don't know. Most days I say, "No, no, NO way!" Other days I'm not so sure. Do I just love babies? Do I really want another 2 year old? 3 year old? 6 yr old? 13 year old? 16 year old? If anyone has been around Ella lately you may understand my thought processes here.


How do you know you are done?

That is the question I have heard many times from many women. Other women come up with lots of really good answers.

From the very beginning, even before Brandon I were married we decided to take children one at a time. For the most part that has worked out pretty well for us. Of course we've had more than a couple heartaches but looking back we can see how those experiences stretched us and grew our spirits and testimonies. I know some peoples' lives especially in regards to family planning work out perfectly on paper but ours has not and that's okay.

The point is, I’ve got 3 kids. And out in the world, 3 is the new 2, but is 4 the new anything? It’s the old, Oh? Catholic or Mormon. I am 34 (which, don’t get me started, but in Mormon Mommy birthing years makes me not quite Sariah, but not at all spring chickeny, you know), and two of the three kids I’ve got are the crazy spider-monkey sort. Ask my home teachers they will back me up on this one. Then there's the fact mentioned above, that our track record is not so good. We have to lose one to get one, compounded with months of waiting (except in the case of Ella). Do we really want to deal with the heartache we both have said we wouldn't wish on our worst enemies?

I get asked all the time if we've, "done or are going to do anything permanent" and no we haven't because doing something permanent is not where my testimony is at right now (which is an entire other post) and I still want to keep my options open, you know? Cause I love babies. And I love my kids, too.

And even though the scientists tell me my eggs are nearly expired, I don’t feel like I’m ready to call the game on account of elderliness or mental insanity, or because I might be bald from tearing all my hair out of my head (though I do realize these are all excellent reasons), because I don’t feel 100% done.
Or am I?

I realize this sort of talk is the talk of the woman who has a choice in the matter. I know I should stop whining.

I guess I just hope that if I do climb out on the limb of this family tree, leave the relative comfort and safety of the norm of 3 and have baby number 4, people will be nice about it. In the end, IF (did you see that grandmas? IF so don't get your hopes up. I'm guessing you were in this same situation at some point and made the best decision for you) I do decide to have another child I know it doesn’t matter. What’s a few tears in trade for a whole other child? And following personal spiritual promptings? It's no contest, really. I can take the societal and family pressure, I think.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

The life of a pilot

(All pictures in this post were taken by Brandon on various cross country flights with his cheesy old 35mm camera)

This is a combination of a couple of documents I have had saved on my computer. Documents that I have shared with different people at a couple of different times. It seemed fitting to document them here. You will notice some redundancy but I am not merging them.
We were having a conversation tonight with a couple members of the Elder's Quorum Presidency about our future. I think a lot of people are surprised about the reality of being a pilot.

When you see a Pilot, they're not getting paid.

When you see a pilot going through the same security you go through, he's not being paid.

When you see a pilot walking in the terminal, he's not being paid.

When you see a pilot at the gate pulling up paper work, planning the flight, and conferring with the agent, he's not being paid.

When you see a pilot walking around the aircraft doing a preflight inspection, he's not being paid.

When you board the aircraft and look in the cockpit and see the pilots setting up the aircraft, they're not getting paid.

When you land safely at your destination and walk off the aircraft and see the pilots shutting down the aircraft, they're not being paid.

When you see a pilot waiting for a ride to a hotel for the night, he's not being paid.

The only time the pilot of your aircraft is getting paid is when you DON’T see him...when he's locked behind the cockpit door as you push back from the gate. Every thing else he does until this point is for free, for no wages. Nothing!

The average airline pilot is at work for 12- 14 hours per day, yet gets paid for less than 6 - 7 hours.

The average airline pilot is away from home, at work, for 70+ hours a week, yet gets paid for only 15 to 18 hours per weeks work.

Most pilots schedules have them working 15 days or more a month... that means they are not at home half the month.

Holidays, weekends, birthdays, anniversaries, summer vacations.... not at home.

A majority of pilots have 4-year college degrees, or more. Then they begin training as pilots.

A large majority of Pilots have spent 8 years or more flying in the military, risking their lives and protecting your freedom for wages most of you wouldn't accept in the civilian world.

Civilian trained pilots have spent $50, 000-$70,000 or more to acquire the training that qualifies them for a Regional Airline job, which pays a wage less than the poverty level in most western countries.

Most pilots do not attain the required experience level to be hired by a major airline until they are well passed the age of 30. The average age of a new hire airline pilot is 32. (We are obviously behind. Mostly due to Brandon's long illness)

The average first-year airline pilot makes less than $20, 000 a year.

Airline pilots are subject to random drug and alcohol testing, any time they are at work. Fail it and they lose their job.

Airline pilots are required to undergo rigorous re-training and certification every 6 to 9 months, at which time they could fail and lose their jobs, licenses and livelihood.

Airline pilots are required to submit to random government "Line checks" during which their license could be revoked and livelihood destroyed.

Airline pilots are exposed to radiation levels far exceeding the normal safe radiation limits mandated by the FDA.

Airline pilots are required to submit to a government medical examination every 6 months (Captains) and 12 months as First Officers. Year after year. Fail that, and their career is over.

How many of you go to work where people try to kill you? How many of you have had your office turned into a cruise missile? How many of you work behind a bullet proof door?

How many of you are responsible for the lives of 200- 300 people, with any small mistake in your performance resulting in the death of your customers (and yourselves), and the financial destruction of your company?

How many of your jobs require you to fight your way through thunderstorms, rain, snow, ice and turbulence, day and night, year after year? No mistakes allowed? The excuse " I had a bad day at work" never accepted?

Many pilots volunteer (on their own time and own dime) to be trained as Federal Flight Deck Officers, and carry weapons to defend their aircraft, crew and passengers. They maintain their proficiency and qualifications twice a year on their own time and money.

How many of you go to work where you are searched, patted down and your personal items scrutinized by strangers.

Airline pilot pay scales and hours worked are usually posted by absurdly overcompensated managers who are waging a PR campaign against their Pilot Unions and trying to justify their own greedy bonus's while asking for lower labor costs.



The Parish's time table:

Another year building flight time as a flight instructor at Utah State.

Another 2 to 4 years as First Officer making $20K if we are lucky.
Many of the regional start at less than $20K. We'll be lucky if Brandon can find a job when we are done with our little Cache Valley adventure due to the economy.

Another 2 to 3 years as captain at a regional making $50K to 65K

Finally get hired by a large airline and go back to $30K to 35K as an FO.

Finally make 80K+ after 3 or 4 years at the large airline.

Most pilots have been flying for 6-10 years before they get hired at a major airline and they still have to start over at $30K/year.

Plus we can count on having to move all over the place chasing employment, Brandon being on reserve and never knowing when he will work or when he'll be home (and I don't mean he'll be late for dinner, I mean he's 1000 miles away and can't get back for 4 days).



Starting out in this career flying for a regional new hire pilots often qualify for food stamps.

Seriously.

Only after a few years in the business does the income move into the high $20K range. In the civilian career path progression, a pilot will usually work at a regional carrier before moving on to a major airline. While some regionals pay close to $30K after 3 years or so, it takes several years at others to make that much.

Starting out in this career one must expect to make some very low wages until they begin to build seniority with their airline and move up the pay scale.





Largest connection carrier, "Express" or regional affiliate airlines starting gross monthly pay:

American Eagle $1,725
Comair - $1,720
Chautauqua - $1,650
Mesa - $1,596
Mesaba - $1,800
Pinnacle $1,575
Skywest $1,425
Trans States $1,628

Pilot pay is something the general public often has a lot of misconceptions about.

The general 'glamorization' of the career leads many people to think that airline pilots make $250-300K+ a year and that they work two weeks or less a month. While there are a select few captains at the major carriers that do, they are by far the minority.

According to the Air Line Pilots Association, their average major airline member Captain is 50 years old, with 18 years seniority and makes $182,000 a year. A non-major airline Captain is 41 years old with 10 years of seniority and makes $70,000 a year.

The average ALPA First Officer member at a major airline is 43 years old with 10 years of seniority and makes $121,000 per year, while an ALPA non major First Officer is age 35 with 3 years of service and makes $33,000.

A major airline is a carrier with more than a billion in sales annually. American, Delta, Northwest, United, Continental, US Airways, Southwest, Alaska (and even several 'regional' carriers) are considered majors by that definition.

However, not all major carriers pilots are members of the ALPA union, notably AA & SWA who have their own in house unions.

Factors affecting pilot pay:

Time with the company (seniority)
Aircraft flown
Whether they are a Captain or First Officer (seat)
The hours in their monthly schedule
The pay scale at their specific airline


A pilots pay is figured upon the hourly rate for their seat and their equipment based upon the pay grade for their seniority. Each company also has a set 'minimum guarantee' flight hour pay in their pilot contract. This is generally about 75 hours per month but varies slightly by airline. (A few majors guarantee is only 65!) However, in no case will the pilot earn less than the 'minimum guarantee'. They may fly less than 75 actual flight hours, but they will still be paid for the 75 per their guarantee. If they get a flight schedule that is blocked for more flight hours than the minimum guarantee, they will then get paid for the greater amount of time flown instead, plus per diem.

Flight crew make about $1-3 per hour in 'per diem' for every hour they are away from their domicile on a trip to cover expenses. This generally adds a few hundred dollars to their pay check. A general comparison of starting monthly First Officer pay by airline:

AMERICAN - $2,240
CONTINENTAL - $2,500
DELTA - $3,640
FED EX - $3,700
NORTHWEST - $2,570
SOUTHWEST - $3,744
UNITED - $1,950
US AIRWAYS - $1,875
UPS - $2,185

All without per diem, based on minimum monthly guarantee, first year pay in smallest fleet type.

Here is a Captain pay comparison at 12 years of seniority, by the largest type in fleet (best paying). This is the gross top pay scale for each fleet type:

American 777 - $12,352
Continental 777 - $14,688
Delta 777 - $14,040
Fed EX widebody $14,874
Northwest 747 - $14,586
Southwest 737 - $14,196
United 747 - $11,570
US Airways A330 $11,520
UPS (all a/c) $15,390

All without per diem, based on minimum monthly guarantee.


As for the job outlook, the industry is constantly changing. The airline business goes in cycles and is very affected by the economy. A few years ago there was a huge hiring boom and now the airlines were still reeling from the post 9/11 fallout when the economy tanked. Thousands of airline pilots are still laid off from their jobs.

Friday, November 6, 2009

Happy Birthday Brandon!


Brandon D. Parish was born 35 years ago on November 6, 1974. He is the third son of John and Joyce Parish. Brandon was born in Cache Valley Utah at the Logan hospital and the only child born in the lower 48. Both his brothers had been born on base in Alaska where his dad was in the air force. Brandon is 7 years younger than his oldest brother Rick and 5 years younger than his brother Robert. He is a wonderful husband to me and an amazing dad to three little people.

Brandon has accomplished many things! It's no secret that I am very proud of him!
You can read more about how awesome I think he is here.


HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Letter's from the big man himself!

Remeber this?



You can get one here


It is a very fun tradition to add to your holiday!
Trust me!!!!

Monday, November 2, 2009